Setting clear limits for our kids to feel safe

How can you respond when a child deliberately does something like throw a block at your head, draws on the couch, pinches the brother? 

 

When kids push boundaries and our limits, many of us get overwhelmed, annoyed, terrified, even up to the limit where we really want to punish our children to make them listen. This can all be so consuming and feels hard at times.

 

However, research has shown that punishments are actually very counterproductive, hurtful, and harmful. These yelling, spanking, shaming and other forms of punishment actually teach nothing to our kids. They might teach kids to obey, but out of guilt or fear, which can cause big problems like anxiety and depression down the road. When they no longer fear us, they'll no longer have a reason to cooperate or listen. 

 

So they will likely keep pushing our limits and disobeying not listening, ignoring us acting out until we respond with the clear limits. We need to set clear limits, in order for them to feel safe. 

 

In today's episode, I am going to share three steps on how to respond in situations where you kids are throwing and hitting. 

 

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